'She kept dumping her kids at my place before dawn': Aunt invoices her sister for $312.47 in babysitting fees after she leaves her 3 and 6-year-old at her doorstep for months at 5:45 AM without asking

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  • Loud boy bothering his mom while she works from home
  • AITA for invoicing my sister after she kept dumping her kids at my place before dawn without asking
  • I am 29F, work hybrid, my sister Lena is 32 with two kids, 6 and 3. Back in March I said I could help with an occasional morning when daycare was closed, like once in a while, no big deal.
  • Somehow occasional turned into Lena showing up at 5,40am, key in hand, dropping the kids in their pjs on my couch and sprinting out before I can even find my glasses. She
  • texts "you're a lifesaver, tysm" and I'm standing there making toast and finding tiny socks before my own meetings start. I love my niblings, I just dont love that my coffee is now cold
  • every single weekday. I tried boundaries, I really did. I said please ask first, I said not on Tuesdays, I said I have a presentation. Next morning, guess who rang my bell at 5,38 with a “quick favor, promise it's last time". It wasnt.
  • Last week the 3yo spilled yogurt into my laptop keyboard, the 6yo used my dry erase markers on the wall because "auntie said she likes color" and I
  • Kid annoying a mom who's working from home
  • missed a 9am client call bc someone was crying about a missing blue cup. Lena got mad that I sounded grumpy, said family helps family and that I'm single so my time is more flexible,
  • which is such a nice way to say my time is free. So I sat down and did math. Extra food, cleaning, new keyboard, two Uber rides because I couldnt drive
  • while both kids melted down, 1 hour of lost freelance time on two days. I made an itemized invoice for 312,47 and emailed it with a cheerful "hey, this is what this support costs,
  • happy to keep helping if we schedule and you cover expenses". She blew up in the family chat, called me heartless and transactional. Mom
  • says I should apologize, dad quietly venmo'd me 50 with a thumbs up emoji. Lena says she will not pay "a cent to my own sister" and also that she needs me again
  • this Friday bc daycare is doing a training day. I replied that I'm not available without prior confirmation and prepayment, she sent a long text about me
  • gatekeeping childcare and how the kids will be sad. Now everyone is acting like I invoiced a stranger, not someone who keeps
  • ignoring every boundary I state. AITA for putting a price on my time after months of being used like a 24,7 drop off spot
  • Disastrous_Fig_828. Well the invoice is probably kinder than calling CPS to report abandoned children!
  • alicat777777. Go nuclear. Change the locks and don't answer the door and call the cops if she leaves them outside. NTA.
  • Odd_Tea4945 You did the exact right thing, because Lena is taking advantage of you. Please take the key or change your locks, because she will keep doing it
  • Actually, you have every single right to "gatekeeping childcare", because guess what? These are NOT your children, it's Lena's responsibility. If Lena will not
  • pay "a cent to my own sister", she'll have to pay a babysitter, because free auntie stops, no matter if HER children "will be sad"

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